He’s Just Not That Into You
A red flag was spotted, but I didn’t see it until now, was I color or love blind?
No one likes mixed signals or different speeds of relationships. Where do you draw the line? If you are reading this/following me, you know I have written several articles about fuck boys, dating and mixed signals. This time, I want to combine all of this and remind everyone (including myself) to remember your worth, especially when dating! What red flags do you catch when you start realizing someone is not right for you?
Letting men, fuck boy me around, was so 2018! I am at a point in life, where I have learned how to have a red flag radar. Now listen, it is hard during the first month of meeting someone, the honeymoon phase can be a deceiving bitch, ya know?! The first few weeks, someone can hide their own lacks in relationships, since the sex and dates are new, that shiny part of meeting someone will disguise majority of things. Back in the day, it would take me about 4–8 months in a relationship to realize that it was toxic and there were so many red flags warning me to get out! But, recently I have learned that a person will let you in on their secret within the first few days/weeks (sometimes 2–3 months) of getting to know them. You want to know what their secret/red flag is…?
They are just not that into you!
Now it may sound like a stinger at first, but why let this person have power over you! They were showing signs from the start but were too afraid or too cautious to bluntly tell you how they feel. Yes, human communication sucks and a lot of people suck at telling us how they feel especially when it’s about dating. The reason I brought up remembering our worth earlier is because, what do you do when you realize that the person isn’t into you? Do you beg for their love? Do you run back? Do you go out that night and fuck a stranger? Do you post a thirst trap on Instagram?
I am not judging on what you decide to do (trust me, I have done all those listed above lol). But, I have gotten to the point where I have realized my worth and how much of a gem I really am. I love who I am and all the self work I have done! I have so much self love for myself, that I refuse to let a persons indecisiveness and selfishness control my narrative. A lot of people aren’t always clear minded at the same time. I think it is our job when dating to really see which glove (or gloves ;) ) fits. I defiantly need to make sure I vibe off of my new partner, that we aren’t going at a fast speed (but also not hella snail slow either). If someone is giving me different answers weekly, one minute they want to cuff me and the next day they want to be single, they just lost my interest.
I think it is great to have boundaries and know what you will tolerate and what you wont. Remember your worth, know your journey and remember…
If he’s(she’s or they) are not that into to you, then fuck them and bye, we don’t waste time on people that aren’t into us! Be that bad betch that you are!
Love,
Antonio
Related Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/hes-just-not-that-into-you-demisexuality-2021-wrapped/id1524578079?i=1000546587035
https://open.spotify.com/episode/2HyYHQvy938u1qYPmXUJ6s?si=_MSbYy66SH6MxwzliPxvuQ
