Romance in the Modern World
Are we scared of commitment? Are our standards too high? Or are we not getting what we expected out of our partner?
I did a poll series on my instagram the other night and here some overwhelming results : It was almost half and half when I asked, if they use dating apps? 52% said yes and 48% no. The next question was, if they like to use dating apps? 80% said NO! I followed it up with seeing , if they think their standards are too high? 58% said yes and 42% said no… When I asked, if they received the reciprocation they expected/wanted? 78% said NO. When asked , if they preferred to be single or in a relationship? 67% said relationship. I followed up the question asking, if they are scared of commitment? 72% said no! The last question was seeing, if they are scared of finding the “one” ? 78% said NO!
*Disclaimer, I am not attacking all dating app experiences, I have some friends that have had major success from dating apps and are still dating years later. This article are for the people who are having a hard time which are a majority of people I know, including myself!*
It’s crazy to me that we live in a dating world of dating apps and a lot of people admitted to using them but majority said they didn’t like using them. I found it fascinating that it was almost even among the people when asked if their standards were too high, personally I think my standards are not too high because, I know my self worth and if you can’t keep up with it then bye! Majority said that they aren’t scared of commitment or finding the “one”. So let’s get into some things!
Why is dating so hard in 2019?
I personally believe that we have a culture of moving on too fast or wanting the next option out there. Why are we using apps when majority of us dont enjoy using apps? Is our culture becoming scared with social interaction and commitment? I have been through the ups and downs of dating especially in this generation. As I have gotten older and wiser, I’ve learned that I am not going to change my approach to the way that I am. If someone can’t level up to what I offer then it isn’t right for me. I have also learned that a moderate pace is good, not too slow and not too fast wins the date race ❤. One piece of advice that I received from a friend that is so obvious that we tend to forget it, “If it is complicated and doesn’t feel right, it isn’t right!” . I think in our culture we are too hooked on the easy access to someone new. I wanted to a start a challenge, let’s do it pre new years resolution, maybe get off the apps and go out there and meet someone, or take some time to yourself. Self love is the best love, also things usually happen when you least expect it and not looking for it. It’s healthy to no be dependent on an app and just do you ❤ . Reading the results from my poll and seeing how majority of people can get into a toxic culture or a state of wanting to be liked is bad for the soul. We live in a world where guys keep their Grindr accounts in order to get instagram followers, have a backup plan while dating or get compliments. Where men on apps can disrespect women or get one off by being a fck boy, there are so many scenarios and crazy stories I hear from my friends every week about the toxic dating culture happening in 2019! And yes, it’s not only dating apps either, sometimes in person meetings can lead into someone becoming a fck boy or girl due to other options, commitment issues, baggage and all the above. I think its time for a change and also time to really, truly get to know yourself more and more so when it is that time you find a partner, you are ready to give it your all and not half ass a commitment like majority of society does!!!
Validate yourself!
Love,
Antonio
