Tired Of Gossip
Xoxo, No More!
Omg, have you heard that… I don’t really care what gossip story you have to tell me. Humans get off with a daily dose of tea (especially after a weekend out), am I the only one that is exhausted by it?
Now, I will keep this article short and sweet, I can go into so many layers about gossip and authenticity when it comes to humans. Yes, I am a highly sensitive person, but that doesn't give anyone the excuse to talk badly about someone especially when the person isn't a part of the conversation or didn't perform any negative actions. *Now, if someone cheated on you, fuck them! They defiantly should be talked about at brunch or on the phone with your support system so you can vent to someone*. I am not writing this to shame anyone for venting about real things such as abusive relationships, being cheated on, parents, traumatic situations, homework and everything in between. You are allowed to vent but it’s a problem when there is character assassination involved, when the reality is, it’s the persons narrative of the person they are gossiping about!
You ask, what is Character Assassination? Well here is the definition listed below:
Character Assassination- the malicious and unjustified harming of a person’s good reputation.
Now I am speaking from my experience in the LGBTQ+ community and also hanging with heterosexual women, I have seen such negative banter and narrative drama happen that caused unnecessary gossip. Now narrative drama, people don’t talk about enough, have you ever had a friend/ex friend talk about you but from their own narrative? Now there are three sides to every story (Their Version, Your Version & The Truth). But there are moments when the other person will make up a situation or resolution that will play along with their narrative, this usually will lead to character assassination. I personally have had ex friends, where the relationship ended because it became really toxic, tell other mutual acquaintances horrible things about me. They wouldn’t talk about my actions, they would only say what I was and what I wasn’t. See this is what I am talking about, if someone pissed you off or offended you, you are allowed to feel a certain type a way and talk to that person or take some space. But to go around and degrade a human with no facts or examples is absolutely horrible. This leads into gossip… humans love to feel like they are a part of something new or juicy/secretive. When someone starts to harm your good reputation, other negative people will jump in and create this negative banter (because frankly, misery loves company and they have nothing else to do).
I also had another friend (I guess they became jealous or there was something happening internally), start to make stories of their own and then would tell other friends false things about me and others. Thankfully my friends are aware of this kind of behavior and knew how to handle this situation and move forward. I understand everyone needs to work on themselves, but what I ask from someone, is to mind your own business, live your truth, stay in your lane and spread good energy. Everyones journey is different, to compare oneself with another can cause internal conflict and also can create resentment and will most likely lead to gossip, a grudge, jealousy or character assassination (maybe even all).
People love to let other people live in their heads rent free. I have learned to not take this personal and yes it will hurt (especially being sensitive) but you have to remind yourself to keep thriving and being the best that you can be! I know my road and journey and I know it does not involve gossip, character assassination or negative energy.
Sending love and vibes to all my true leaders and lovers out there. Less jealousy and more love ❤.
Love, Antonio Liranzo
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