Wasting Time
What are we doing? Have you ever just stopped and thought to yourself, “What the fuck am I doing’?
Yea, not to be a bummer, but that is where my head is at, at times. Why are some things in life such a drag? Have you ever questioned why things in your life are so mundane?
A thought that has been on my mind lately, is the topic of dating. If I have to tell someone one more time, who I am and what I do, I think my head will fall off! Dating apps have their own charm & appeal, but the one thing they lack, is keeping some of us intrigued and encouraged. I make a profile, the first week feeling sexy, “Omg so many guys like me”, then 1 week later, with 100+ matches and dull ass conversations, what did I just spend a week doing?
Let’s also discuss multitasking humans. Like I dont know how some of y’all do it, but talking to more than 1–2 people has me so confused lol. Like juggling two conversations and then remembering what they do and when they are free to go on a date or fuck, then you add a third and fourth option and now you are juggling four different lives and background stories. Listen, it is enough getting up and making coffee and making my deadlines with work, you think I have the time or energy to remember several stories about different men I met through the internet that will most likely lead to dead ends? Yea, that for me is a waste of time…
Now, I hate to be that person that seems negative and alienated, but this is a thought piece on the tedious side of dating. Like the ego of course loves apps, especially hookup apps (Grindr, Scruff, Tinder & plenty of more…), we get instant gratification, we are told how sexy we are, we can go from a dry sex life to a fascinating wet, slip and slide! But my question is, how many times are you let down before you are in your wet fantasy? How many annoying ass dates have you been on and still haven’t met anyone you click with? How many time have you had to explain what you do and what your hobby is? (I have, fucking 1000+ times). How many times have you had 10+ unread messages in the app and you are so busy with life and adulting that you don’t even know who to reply to? I can keep going on and on, I feel like anyone that has tried an app, has, been there, done that!
My problem is, I will go app free for 6+ months and then cave in because I am having a “moment”. I then download an app and instantly regret it within 3 days. As an artist, Libra and easily bored human, repeating myself to guys I am most likely not going to meet, honestly is annoying, frustrating and a waste of time! Maybe, what I am trying to get at here is, can I/you challenge our ego to not be so hooked on the gratification of an app? If we want to have a splish splash sex life or possibly meet our twin flame at a coffee shop, we should try that, by going out, chatting with a stranger (a safe and non creepy stranger), or just fucking sitting by yourself drinking your iced Starbucks coffee and manifesting some shit! This also goes to fuck boys that you meet organically (refer to my red flags article: https://antonioliranzo.medium.com/hes-just-not-that-into-you-7d564a4701c1 ) we don’t waste time on those situations either!
I believe with writing this article, it’s time to start an actual pledge that I am going to follow. Less repeating myself and more reinventing myself. I am soooooo done wasting my time!
Love,
Antonio
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